Exploring Partnerships - Holy Response Batman (Caroline to Dawn)

Well, this is all super interesting and confusing stuff :). But also the simplest things in the world to do.  Because we are naturally drawn to each other.  To create in Union.  Union of people, with our environment, and Union of self.  

So even when we feel we are totally alone, I call bullshit.  No such thing.  We are intimately connected with those around us, our environment and that space of unity within.  We interact through relationships.  We express and it is received by another. 

Further to expression, we experience the world as reflection.  As a watching of how the other responds to me, how I respond to me, how the natural world bends as we push and breaks as we beat.  I believe this watching goes down to the soul level.  The understanding that we are not the goings on of our body and mind, but rather the watcher who takes in the goings on.  The prime mover.  The energy that instigates movement, thought, feeling.  

And this is where the understanding of meditation is helpful.  Meditation is the opening; the allowance of silence.  Within that space of silence there is infinite possibility and dynamism.  And this is where a spark occurs.  Where creation and relationship are formed.

Now I realise that I've veered away slightly from the discussion on relationship and creating together, but it was with reason.  Because I understand relationship with another, the mutual soul creation, as coming from this same space of silence and possibility.  

So, in my opinion you are completely right.  It is not possible to create soulful, deep, loving connection alone.  Because I feel this creation is what we naturally are.  We have no choice.  

But the thing that gets me, the confusion, is that one can choose to either accept or ignore the deeper callings; the creations and desire to play and be with another.  So in this way I very much agree with you.  There takes a vulnerability, an openness and willingness to actively engage.  And so often to unlearn patterns and habits.

But that's the coolest thing about relationship.  Because of the mirror quality, it is through relationship that those bits of us that could use a little work are revealed.

Ok 1 more thing here.  Slightly off topic but so very relevant.  I think the real need in a romantic relationship, in a partnership, is acceptance.  And with this, the holding up of another; being a champion of your partner rather than a critic.  Because really, we don't need another critic.  The reflection we perceive and feel in another, in the world around us and within us is enough of a critic.  What we truly need in a sustainable, deep and loving partnership is support.

So, 100% YES!!!  I agree with you in that the only way for 2 people to experience deep, soulful connection and creation is through vulnerability and fearlessness.  A willingness to ignore the trappings of the mind, the fear of judgement, and choose openness.  Because what else can you do but try??  I know for me, I have no desire to look back on any day, any moment of my life, and wonder if I chose fear.  Fuck fear in the ear!!!!!!!!!